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braddah jay
Lokahi
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 Posted - 01/30/2009 : 7:28:14 PM
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First of all I'm sharing this in that maybe something will be gained instead of ruined.The other night while me and my best friend were playing and planning on recording,it all started when our camera wasn't charged up thus putting a stop to recording.I made the comment about the camera should have been charged up especially since we were going to record,and from there it went bad to worst,nothing disrespectful,but none the less hurtful.When my best friend said he no like play tonite,"I said ok I goin home then" But when he said that he was done playin music period,that hit me hard,cause I know how much my friend enjoys playin music.And when I realized that I had something to do with him not playing with me any longer that broke my heart.So the first thing I did was to appologize,and how wrong it was to say something like that,in return my best friend said it was wrong of him to let something like that get him that angry.I'm not embarassed to admit we were both cried,and both comforting the other.My point is had I let my pride take over instead of my true feelings for my best friend,we probably wouldn't be playing any longer.But since we made things right,he asked me for a favor,I said sure,"bra we go try again and record" Thus you guys heard our first try at singin,wasn't da best but was definitely from da heart.This man is my best friend always will be,I learned a valuable lesson that night.I hope by sharing something will be gained instead lost.Pride can be a killer,I'm only glad she never get me.Aloha everyone braddah jay.
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RJS
Ha`aha`a
1635 Posts |
Posted - 01/30/2009 : 8:06:29 PM
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| Thanks for the post. Important stuff. |
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hapakid
Luna Ho`omalu
USA
1533 Posts |
Posted - 01/30/2009 : 8:48:45 PM
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Playing music together means letting anger go, finding and enjoying what is sympatico with your fellow musicians. This is a good example how to make things right before you try and sing from the heart.
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guitarded
Ha`aha`a
USA
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Posted - 01/31/2009 : 01:10:04 AM
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Mahalo to you both for putting your pride aside.  Aurite. Life is too shawt.  |
Edited by - guitarded on 01/31/2009 11:14:41 AM |
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RWD
`Olu`olu
USA
850 Posts |
Posted - 01/31/2009 : 02:11:34 AM
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| Musicians that play together become family. |
Bob |
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wcerto
Ahonui
USA
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Posted - 01/31/2009 : 02:28:18 AM
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You both have so much aloha and both of you are not afraid to use it. Jay, you once told me that two of the best lessons your mama taught you were aloha and to forgive. And the third lesson you said she taught you was to have fun! Through the lessons she taught you, you have taught me and counless others. Everyone you and Duke touch have been so blessed by those qualities in both of you.
That being said, there is nothing wrong with having standards or wanting to get better at whatever you do. Duke and you are both so encouraging to other people. You urge them on; you help them learn; you teach them so many lessons, not just the music. Duke is serious about something that means so much to him and it obviously means so much to you, too. I know you both were probably nervous about singing and putting it on you tube. I can full well understand that. That is why you don't see or hear me on You Tube yet. But Unko Paul, now he no sked. He has been singing and playing in front of other people for quite a few years. It started when he built his dulcimer and found a club of like-minded folks. They would play together at nursing homes, hospitals, church socials, historical events. He got used to playing music in front of others. Then he eventually started playing at jam sessions and open mike nights at a local coffee shop. Is he a perfect guitarist, dulcimer player, harmonica player, banjo player singer? No. But she goes.
Paul has all along told you and Duke that if only the best birds sang, the forest would sadly be too quiet. You both were so very good in what you presented for you tube as your first singing videos. Were you perfect? No. Because none of us knows exactly what Dennis had in mind when he wrote Koke`e, on how it wanted it presented. The same thing for Uncle Jerry's song, Ku`u Home o Kahul`u.
But I can guarantee you one thing that they both wanted when their mele were presented to others was the aloha. That is why those songs have become so beloved by the people. Both of those songs showcase deep and profound aloha. And so did you and Duke. Why else you think all those folks wrote the comments they did on You Tube?
Now give Auntie some kleenex.
I love you my brothers.
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Me ke aloha
Malama pono,
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Momi
Lokahi
402 Posts |
Posted - 01/31/2009 : 3:13:58 PM
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'As rite - life is too shawt - good fo' bot' you guyzes. Planny tings wert mo dan pride. Dat's one lesson I still tryin' fo lern.
One mo lesson I wen lern dat I still tryin' fo practice: solve communication problems with more communication.
Less huhu, mo' music. 'k den. |
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braddah jay
Lokahi
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Posted - 01/31/2009 : 4:27:24 PM
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| Yeah thanks everyone for the positive input,so easy to let it go.Many went the other route,and either are still not talking,let alone playing together.I'm glad my brother and I have become better because of it,instead of moving on and ending our journey together as da two bolo head braddahs who jus love to play music and share.Again thanks to all who responded.Braddah jay. |
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kihoalukid
Lokahi
USA
289 Posts |
Posted - 01/31/2009 : 5:49:34 PM
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| Playing/listening to Kihoalu sure smooths out the bumps in life, glad you two will still be making your music. Love the Ku'u Home arrangement you did, i played that over and over at least 20 times while i was working on the computer, for real! Listening to it again now. You guys rock! Lee. |
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Trev
Lokahi
United Kingdom
265 Posts |
Posted - 02/01/2009 : 12:31:27 AM
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Ah Sir Duke, Brother Jay - thanks for sharing this very personal story. I'm very much a beginner at slack key (and at fingerpicking generally), but perhaps differently to you, I have always played with other people. Little differences like this crop up all the time, and because music is the language of the emotions, sometimes things can get a little intense. It is vitally important to realise that you shouldn't take things personally. I have a friend with whom I've been making music since we were 16. We've had some fairly 'spirited' discussions over the last 25 years, but whatever happens, we've always been friends and brothers, and will always remain so.
I love watching your videos. Whether you have any ambitions or not, doesn't matter. When I see the two of you playing, it's a unique and wonderful thing that I find really inspiring. It's a precious thing - and you're doing it for the right reasons.
Looking forward to hearing the next thing you share with the world. Take it easy fellers! |
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rendesvous1840
Ha`aha`a
USA
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Posted - 02/01/2009 : 09:45:14 AM
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No shame in making mistakes- didn't we all do something we wish we could take back? Shame is in not rectifying our mistakes, and getting back on track. Mistakes are good for learning from. Sounds like you did.
Paul
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PoiDog
Lokahi
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Posted - 02/01/2009 : 7:25:32 PM
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Dammit! Wai maka an all! Some how deep down, I had a hunch was goin' be OK! Dats da Bruddah way! |
Aloha,
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slackkey808
Akahai
USA
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Posted - 02/01/2009 : 10:08:18 PM
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| Wow, I couldn't even tell you guyz got into that little trouble. I can't even imagine you guyz fighting about anything. I'm sure everyone's glad you decided to put your friendship first. |
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Trev
Lokahi
United Kingdom
265 Posts |
Posted - 02/02/2009 : 03:19:35 AM
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Examples a-plenty, especially where siblings are involved.
Oasis – constant bickering squabbling and fighting. Fisticuffs onstage have been known to occur.
Ray & Dave Davies from the Kinks – same thing
Everly Brothers – they even travel in separate limousines to concerts.
Sam and Dave – entered the stage from different sides, did not speak to each other – very unpleasant back story.
I forget the name, but I recently read about members of a band who were set to have a reunion after a hiatus of over 20 years. They got back together, met, and promptly resumed the same squabble that split them up in the first place, which was about what sort of pickup they should use on their electric guitars! So the reunion never took place.
And a friend of mine who does care work is looking after a woman in her 80s who hasn’t spoken to her sister (who lives across the road) since the Second World War, when they had an argument about who should have the top bunk in a set of bunk beds!
Lennon and McCartney, Jagger and Richards, Strummer and Jones, Gilbert and Sullivan, they’ve all had major fallouts. We’re all human.
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braddah jay
Lokahi
235 Posts |
Posted - 02/02/2009 : 11:56:14 AM
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Amazing what pride can do,but ONLY if you allow it to.As soon as my back is good to go,you know where I goin be,playin music wit my braddah,and proud of it too.  Hope dis kinda makes us reflect if maybe our pride has hurt someone close to us,made me think about it.Mahalo everybody. |
Edited by - braddah jay on 02/02/2009 11:58:33 AM |
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braddah jay
Lokahi
235 Posts |
Posted - 02/02/2009 : 12:13:43 PM
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Originally posted by slackkey808
Wow, I couldn't even tell you guyz got into that little trouble.
Right on zach,and that's only because we wen make things right first,and what's even more surprising is dat was a first.Me and braddah duke are so alike,in fact we're both born on the same day.One year apart,he's da old man.Hehehe |
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